Ignoring things are not often bad because sometimes, it might save your life to do so.
Although it does sound bad (in most cases it is), the ability to ignore something might come in handy in a lot of scenarios that can significantly boost your future career.
Here’s 3 situations of when it is actually okay to start ignoring:
1) Ignore perfection
Perfection is the enemy of progress.
Have you ever noticed than when doing work, we normally spend a bit of time checking our work again and again just to see if it’s perfect?
Some people care so much about how their work looks like that they constantly check countless times to see if it looks nice.
Do you think your boss cares if your work is nice or not?
Sure nicety is a plus but if your progress is not up to expectations, the visuals won’t matter in the end if it’s rejected will it?
An example would be this very website that you’re looking at.
It looks nice (Looks amazing actually) but I actually spent 1 MONTH trying to find the right look which meant absolutely nothing after achieving it because I realized afterwards that however nice my website may be, it’s useless without contents.
Being too overly concerned about how perfect your work is will kill progress so it’s best to avoid being a perfectionist.
2) Ignore negative thoughts
Being an optimist doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a bad thing.
They are simply people who dismiss negative thoughts and focus only on the positive ones.
There’s an excerpt from the law of attraction, “You attract what you feel” which means that if you give more thought and feeling on the negative things, that may come true.
So the next time you receive negative comments like “Your service sucks!” or “you have the most terrible food outlet in Michigan!” dismiss that and focus on the solutions instead.
Besides, why spend time feeling guilty and regret instead of spending time thinking of solutions?
3) Ignore what other people think
“Stop thinking about what other people want and start thinking about what you want, Ted” Those words made me re-think on my actions the most.
Oh and almost forgot, that sentence was from the last episode of How I Met Your Mother (I’m a big fan).
Perhaps this may sound a bit selfish but sometimes, we need to stop caring if our actions please others or not because what good does it make if you’re not happy?
Maybe disappointing others all the time isn’t acceptable but when it comes to life decisions, I can’t stress enough that we NEED to think about what we want.
After all, opportunities come once in a while.
I made a mistake by not chasing after my girlfriend when she went overseas because nobody thought it was worth it and I regret not taking that action for the rest of my life because now, she’s with another man.
Another example was my decision on moving to France to pursue my dreams because I’m in love with the culture there (And the French girls).
I spent 2 years studying French and when opportunity arises for me to continue my studies there, I held back and stayed in Malaysia because my family doesn’t want me to.
So again, another life’s mistake that I regretted not doing so it is important to know that being selfish sometimes is the right thing to do.
Conclusion
It is important to think about what others feel but when it comes to life’s decisions, we have to stop thinking about what other people want and start thinking about what we want.
Life is short so we can’t spend all of our time pleasing everybody but not ourselves.
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Riaz Shah
I’m a very obsessive compulsive person and it is hard for me to ignore things which has got me into many troubles but this article gave me a huge in sight on things, thanks Riaz.
Glad I could be of help, Ian.
This is great information, thanks for sharing Riaz! I’ve been looking everywhere for this, will definitely bookmark your site 😀
Thanks for dropping by Karen, I appreciate you. Will do my best to keep you updated!
wow I never knew about this, all these time I’ve been tying to perfect my work and that took me AGES just to finish my work. Great info you’ve got here Riaz, will definitely drop by to check again
Me too! When writing my first blog post, that took me almost 7 weeks to write something that takes less than an hour. Well, perfection is the enemy of progress. Thanks for dropping by Jack!
I always care about what other people think and I can tell you that it’s so uncomfortable because everything that you do will haunt you for life! My conscious keeps telling me this is wrong so after a while, I get fed up and not care about what other people think, Great post Riaz, loving your blog!
Thanks Valerie! It’s not wrong to care about what other people think but if you care about what everyone thinks, that is gonna get you into massive trouble sooner or later. Thanks for dropping by 🙂
Nice pieces of advice, Riaz! I get caught in the perfection trap quite often, and I keep trying to tell my Self that I can only grow/learn if I keep moving forward!
I would like to add that, sometimes, it can be useful to listen to negativity, too. I say this because I think that some negative comments or thoughts (from other people) can be feedback that can make you and your work better. Sure, some people can be jerks, but some people may offer constructive criticism that benefits you. So I think it’s important to listen to those people. What do you think?
I think that’s a great advice Timothy! Thank you for the add. Totally true, we can use the negative side of things to get a hint of what move we should take next, just don’t give in to that negativity 😉
Those are some nice tips!
I know i follow them for my personal life in the majority of cases, and it is something that brings me happiness!
Keep up the good work 🙂
Thank you Scott! Hope you find that happiness 😉